I think what I found most useful was Karen's ability to listen to my moans and groans about the struggle of daily, family life for long enough to feel heard, but then still manage to pull me back to focus on my self awareness and goals that were attainable, it's a true talent she has.
Gemma, London


 

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.. when I started I was stuck, sad, feeling sorry for myself and a bit of a pathetic pain who was going through the motions - I was bored with life and more importantly with me. I now feel that life is full of possibilities and that I would be crazy not to grab them by the throat.
G. P. Hertfordshire

 

So, here you are!

It may have been a long time coming but that still doesn't stop it feeling like it suddenly sneaked up on you when you weren’t looking, does it? But regardless of when and how it happened, here you are, a fully grown, midlife woman! 

Listen to this extract from an interview where Karen talks about women's midlife experience...

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So how come you feel more like a stroppy teenager than a grown woman? There's the mood swings... the hormones charging all over the place... the uninvited physical changes and of course, the inexplicable ANGER, to name but a few! On top of all that, you suddenly find yourself bang in the middle of some sort of 'identity limbo' - you know who you used to be but as for who you are now.... well, that's anyone's guess!

Carl Jung describes this time as our 'second puberty’ - and he should know - so if what you are currently experiencing reminds you of your adolescence - keep calm, it's all 'perfectly normal'!

"Sometimes we are living in the in-between times:  when we’re no longer who we used to be, but we haven’t yet arrived at our next stage either." -Marianne Williamson

Crisis, crossroads, change and opportunity. 

Normal it may be but that doesn't make it an easy or comfortable place to find yourself in, does it? Chances are, you feel disconnected... discontented... restless, confused - I could go on but you get the idea!

I'll bet that up until now, you've thrown yourself wholeheartedly into many different roles in your personal and professional life with enthusiasm, confidence and success.  And yet now some of those important, fulfilling roles that have shaped your life are changing and somehow, you no longer seem to ‘fit’ in your own life!  All this has left you struggling to figure out where to go from here and you can't help thinking that you may have fallen into that black hole known as 'the midlife crisis'!

Let me reassure you  - midlife is rarely about crisis and almost everything to do with 'change'. Right now you are standing at the midlife crossroads - there is no turning back and the way forward may not look clear - but what you do have is an amazing opportunity to change for the better and actively choose the direction you wish to take as you step into this brand new phase of your life. Midlife is not the end of the story - it's just the beginning!

Until now, life has more than likely been crammed with far too much to do, to be unduly perturbed by any thoughts of 'the future' and I'll bet various dreams and ideas have been silently filed away in a ‘mañana’ box along the way. Well, midlife is the perfect opportunity to open up your ‘mañana’ box, reconnect with your long forgotten dreams and make new, authentic choices about how you wish to live your life.

So, having arrived at the midlife crossroads, the question is... what are you going to do now?

• You may well be feeling disorientated but are you content to simply ‘muddle through’ in the hope that you will arrive at an acceptable destination?

• You may be desperate to believe it’s 'your turn' now but are you going to step up and take responsibility for making sure it happens?

• You may know that SOMETHING in your life needs to change but are you going to take the time to find out what?

Making changes of any sort isn't rocket science, but the fact is, change is rarely without challenges and taking responsibility for creating the life you want, is most certainly a challenging thing to do and few of us actually make the shift without the right support and encouragement to empower and motivate us along the way.

"Will you look back on life and say 'I wish I had’ or ‘I’m glad I did’?" -Zig Ziglar

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